Lord Krishna stated in the Gita that human beings with demonic nature are not only unaware of the path of pleasing God (path of liberation or Moksha marga) but also unaware of worldly justice (Pravrittimcha Nivrittimcha janana vidurasurah...). Demonic nature means that neither do they know on their own nor listen to others. This is due to ignorance combined with egoism. These people fail even in the worldly duties like marriages by doing unnecessary rituals and leaving aside the necessary. Example: one devotee gives one and half lakh rupees towards dowry and gifts to the bridegroom side and spends five lakhs towards marriage expenses. This should be done the other way i.e., give five lakhs rupees to your daughter and spend only one and half lakh rupees towards marriage expenses. Infact, the best way is to give six lakhs to your daughter and spend half lakh towards marriage expenses. Some people say that the more you spend towards marriage expenses, the more you have love on your daughter. This is not at all true. The truth is that the more you give to your daughter, the more it shows your love on her and this cannot be denied. Actually, the money spent in performing the marriage is only the exhibition of self-pride but in no way does this show your love on your daughter.
The Gita says this exhibition of self-pride as demonism ( Ishwarohamaham...). Some people support this and twist it as celebration of some memorable event of life. There are two categories of people supporting this opinion. The first category of people, who loot the money, belong to the music band, the flower decorators of the marriage podium etc. These people speak like this for the safe sustenance of their business and therefore, have some justice in it. The second category of people, belong to friends and relatives. The reason for their support is due to their subtle internal desire to see you suffer poverty and amidst of problems after heavily spending on marriage. This puts them in better financial position relatively with reference to the parent of bride, which is more enjoyed. This subtle internal desire is not known even to them but is hidden in sub-conscious state (Avyakta Praaktana Samskara). This subtle internal desire is reflected in utterance of some words and the indifferent actions done by them. Even the donors of the bride (bride's parents) will have a subtle quality (Samskara) in their mind, which is not known in the conscious plane. This quality is the desire for name and fame. He likes people to surround him with praise for this special celebration of marriage. This sort of appreciation should come when you have done a good job for the upliftment of society but not in this way. But, when this opportunity does not exist at all in one's life, one may get satisfaction of name and fame by performing the marriages like this. This internal desire for name and fame is masked and donor of the bride says that the marriage is performed with so much grandeur because of the affection towards the daughter. This subtle quality is not known in the conscious plane and hence, he does not agree even if it is told by others.
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