How can I overcome a crush on a person and the habit of daydreaming?

[Kum. Thalla Bhanu asked: Swami, I feel that I have a crush (moha) on a person, whom I do not know personally. That person does not even know that I exist. I cannot help but involve in the act of daydreaming and it entertains me a lot. I encouraged myself to daydream since childhood, but after reading your Divine Discourses, I have realized that it is wrong. But now, it is very hard to overcome that habit. Please suggest to me what I should do to overcome this crush and the habit of daydreaming.]

Swami replied: The excessive fascination for a person to the extent of daydreaming must be analysed in the proper manner. The reason for the attraction must be due to some special or extraordinary qualities existing in the person. Compare the person with God, who has the same qualities, but to a much higher level. In fact, God has the same qualities to the highest level. God also has many more attractive qualities than that person. With this realization, you can slowly turn your fascination towards God. In the initial stage, you can think that the person is a representative model (pratīka) of God. In that case, your growing fascination becomes growing devotion. God will be pleased with you for this because your attraction is basically for God and not for a human being. If the person is already a Human Incarnation, you are already on the highest path. Hanumān, Rādhā etc., developed such fascination towards the Human Incarnation Himself. If the person is not a Human Incarnation, even then, you can keep the person in your view, thinking that the person is representing God, just as an inert statue represents God during worship. The best form of God for humanity is the Human Incarnation. But the worst tragedy is that every human being is repelled by other human forms due to ego and jealousy towards fellow-human forms. In the concept of the contemporary Human Incarnation of God, both the divine nectar of easy approachability and the horrible poison of repulsion between the common human media co-exist!

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