Does God use the lives of the family members to test devotees?

[Smt. Chhanda Chandra asked: Swami, one of the purposes of human incarnation is to test the devotees. From the lives of many devotees, we know that this test may be in the form of lives of the family members also or more correctly, the strongest attachments of the devotees. The family members may or may not be devoted to God. Then how can their lives, who are not in spiritual path be used? It is definitely beneficial for the devotee to pass the test but what about the others? Probably I am not able to put the question properly but what I mean to say must be clear to the omniscient You. I strongly believe there cannot be anything wrong in God’s administration. If my question does not have any sense, kindly excuse me. At Your divine lotus feet Chhanda.]

Swami replied:- First, you must learn thoroughly the process of swimming and then only you can train others or even protect others from drowning in the process of swimming. If you are not efficient in swimming, don’t try to save others due to your blind fascination of the worldly bonds. In such case, not only the other person, but also, you will be drowned. Even while you are learning swimming, these worldly bonds try to hinder your progress. The reason is that every worldly bond loves you for its happiness and not for your happiness. These worldly bonds are also infected with ego based jealousy and will not allow you to progress in art of swimming. You must always fix your attention on God alone and not on these worldly bonds, which neither progress by themselves nor allow you to progress. You can think of protecting them after perfectly learning the art of swimming.