Shri Datta Swami

Posted on: 27 Oct 2021


If female birth is the final birth, will it not develop jealousy in males?

[Ms. Laxmi Thrylokya asked:- Swami, You told that the soul has to take female birth as final birth before getting salvation. Will this not develop jealousy in males against females?]

Swami Replied:- The ego based jealousy is very common in human beings either in Pravrutti or Nivrutti. This attacks the heart of even a Sage on seeing a co-human being or a co-devotee or even contemporary human incarnation. The ego is of two types:- 1) Inherent ego based on gender, caste etc., and 2) Acquired ego based on external conditions like education, wealth etc. Both male and female can get rid of the acquired ego by Spiritual effort. The ego based on gender is inherent related to the form of body, which can never be completely eradicated by males. Therefore, God Raama asked the Sages to take birth as females in the next birth so that the Sages born as female Gopikas can get rid of the gender ego completely. The innermost soul has no gender.

Gender is only for the external body. Just one extra birth as female does not matter much in view of very long chain of past millions of births. The Veda says that all souls are females and wives of the only male God. Bhaaryaa or wife means maintained (bhriyate iti bhāryā) and Bhartaa or husband means the maintainer (bibharti iti bhartā). All the souls are maintained by God only. Female (Prakruti) means the creation and male (Purusha) means creator, who is God. Soul is a part of creation called Paraaprakruti. If this realisation is attained, the soul will not have gender ego. But, the gender is related to the structure of the external body, with which the soul is in contact from the birth. Hence, this influence of gender is very strong in the case of souls.

Expression of ego along with confidence and will power is needed in certain contexts of Pravrutti. A manager can’t control his employees without showing ego and if he shows softness, the employees will not be controlled. Similarly, a school teacher in the class of immature students needs expression of ego. Ego along with confidence and will power are not recommended especially in pure Nivrutti while dealing with God alone. Hence, even the least trace of ego is to be eliminated by the soul with reference to dealing with God.