Am I committing a sin by shouting at my mother when she crosses the limit of my tolerance?

[Śrī Ganesh asked: Padanamaskaram Swamiji! My mother and father do not have a happy marriage. It has gotten worse since my father is not working anymore and is not looking for a job actively. My mother does not mind him not working for money but she is irritated with certain gimmicks of his. I have gotten used to their fighting over the years. But since I am the only person that my mother can talk to, she finds some relief by venting out and say everything she has to say to me. I find that she does not want to understand the other side of the story and plays the victim card always. At times I'm able to tolerate it, but mostly I snap and shout at her. Am I committing a sin by shouting at her?

Swami replied: O Learned and Devoted Servants of God! Your shouting is not a sin since it is logical. But you should always try to find a better way of responding to her by advising her in a cool manner. When you shout, her ego will be hurt. Due to that she will not be able to properly absorb your advice. When you explain logically, in a calm and peaceful manner, that hindrance in her accepting your advice due to her hurt ego, will be avoided. You will thus achieve a better result. You should speak logic mixed with humility and love.

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