Why did Ramakrishna Paramahamsa ask the devotee who complained about his wife to leave her?

[Divine Satsanga: About 40 devotees participate in a weekly online satsaṅga in Telugu, every Sunday. On September 27, 2020, Swami also participated in it and answered devotees’ questions, some of which are given here for the benefit of all. Smt. Vijaya, Smt. Renuka, Shri Bharat, Shri Satti Reddy, Smt. Lavanya, Smt. Rama, Shri Raja Sekhar, Kum. Trylokya, Mr. Navachaitanya, Shri Ajay, Mr. Prasad, Mr. Kishore Ram, Mr. Nitin, Smt. Usha Rani etc., are some of the devotees who were present in the satsaṅga online, while Shri Phani and Shri Sharma were present with Swami.]

Why did Ramakrishna Paramahaṃsa ask the devotee who complained about his wife to leave her? (4 of 6)

Swami replied: A newly married devotee would return home late because he would listen to the preaching (satsaṅga) of Paramahaṃsa. The devotee’s wife would quarrel with him for returning late every day. The devotee went to the Sadguru (Paramahaṃsa) and told Him about this problem. At that time, the Sadguru was going from the temple to Pañcavaṭī, located on a hill for meditation. This represents ārohaṇa or ascending from the world to God. Hence, the Sadguru told the devotee to just leave the wife like discarding an inconvenient chappal (shoe)! Such a decision was actually taken by Rāmānuja, who was at a higher level of devotion. But this devotee was only an ordinary soul. Hence, he was shocked by that advice of the Sadguru. Later, the Sadguru was returning to the temple, which is the decent from God to the world. This descent is called avarohaṇa or avatāra. At this time, the devotee asked the same question to the Sadguru again. This time, the Sadguru told the devotee not to worry about it since the Divine Mother would take care of it.

There is yet another way for ordinary souls. Cheating the wife for the sake of being with a prostitute is a sin. But cheating the wife for the sake of being with God is not a sin because God is beyond justice. First, the devotee should try to convince his wife and try to take her along with him to the satsaṅga or the spiritual discourse. If the wife does not co-operate with her husband, he should say that he is returning late because he is doing overtime work in order to earn more and purchase more jewelry for her!

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