Posted on: 01 Oct 2023
a) Please correct me if my following understanding of Your knowledge is incorrect.
[Shri Bharath Krishna asked: Padanamaskaram Swami, Kindly answer the following questions of mine related to marriage. From the spiritual Knowledge given by You, I have learned the following reasons why a spiritual aspirant should marry. 1. One should get married so that Lord Datta can test one's attachment to Him by competing with these worldly bonds. 2. The life partner will support in Spiritual effort. 3. Biological needs are taken care of. Please correct me if my above understanding of Your Knowledge is incorrect.]
Swami replied:- Your understanding of My spiritual knowledge in this context is perfectly correct.
b) I don't have the confidence of overcoming my attachments. Can I avoid marriage?
[I have questions related to each of the above reasons. Question 1: I don't even have confidence that I can overcome any attachments with worldly bonds, why go for marriage and get more worldly bonds?]
Swami replied:- A student says that he has no confidence to pass the examination and hence, does not want to appear for the examinations. Is he correct? He must study and must appear for the examinations by doing his level best. In such a case, God will help him to pass. If he is not appearing for the examinations, God can’t help him in any way.
c) Is it guaranteed that those who want a spiritually supportive life partner will certainly get one?
Swami replied:- You have to do your duty of a patient search. If you do your duty perfectly, God will certainly help you.
d) Is it a good idea to marry a life partner with more spiritual interests than me?
[Question 3: I think if I get a wife who has more spiritual interest than I have, I will also be constantly inspired in my spiritual journey. Is this a good idea?]
Swami replied:- There is no need of comparing the extents of the spiritual interest. If an atom of spiritual interest exists, it can be blown into a big fire. Avoid atheists.
e) Can one remain unmarried if a suitable life partner is not obtained?
[Question 4: Fulfilling biological needs depends on the physical beauty of the life partner as well as the specific qualities of the person. If one can't find such a person to marry, can one remain unmarried?]
Swami replied:- It is impossible. God has already set a candidate for you. You are lazy in searching for your life partner fixed by God.