Why Does the Woman Have to Leave Her Home and Go to Her Husband's Home After Marriage?

[Tinku K asked:]

Swami replied:- The reason behind this is that property is given to sons only and not to daughters. The daughter serves her in-laws and not her parents because of this financial background. The daughter changes even her surname and gotra for this economic background. The fun is that one shall not marry in the same Gotra and how the wife gets the same gotra? There is a tradition in some places that the daughter-in-law calls her in-laws as father and mother directly! The background behind this is that she wants to replace the place of daughter so that the tendency of giving property to daughter may be reduced as far as possible! Even the son-in-law calls his in-laws as father and mother and tries to replace the place of the son so that he can get some good gifts at least! In fact, the Veda says that property shall be given to both sons and daughters equally since the word ‘Putra’ means both sons and daughters and not son alone as per Sanskrit grammar (ekashesha sutra). Of course, discrimination can be done based on the need in view of ‘Aapatdharma’ (modified rule as per the need of issue). This means that if an issue (son or daughter) is poor, more property can be given to that issue, which should not be based on gender.

The terrible influence of wealth is so much that males denied holy thread (Upanayanam) to females because if females are also eligible for this ritual, they will also participate in death rituals. The males linked property to death rituals! All this world is rotating around money and wealth only (Dhanamuulamidam jagat). Due to this top most importance of money and wealth in the hearts of the souls, God also used this concept to test the real devotion (love) to God through this only. The Veda says that the sacrifice of money and wealth alone decides the strength of the devotion (Dhanena ekena...). In the Gita, God has gone to one step further in saying that the money sacrificed must be hard earned money and not the ancestral property using the word ‘karmaphalatyaaga’, which means sacrifice of fruit of hard work. The reason is that the bond to hard earned money is stronger than the bond to ancestral money. When one earns money through hard work, then only such soul recognizes the importance of money and tries to save it as far as possible. There are several cases, who have spoiled the ancestral property and there are hardly even few, who have spoiled self-earned property. This point resulted in the usual saying that God is in money (paisa me paramaatmaa hai)!

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